In this day and age, we are constantly bombarded with glossy images of a better, more interesting life. We’re shown images through billboards, commercials, ads, and social media. It becomes a struggle not to have FOMO (fear of missing out). I have certainly experienced envy from time to time by seeing and hearing what others have done.
Breathe. Take a step back. Everyone’s lives are different. We have our own set of goals. We don’t all necessarily achieve goals in the same way. You can have people as your source of inspiration. You can be the same age as someone else and be at a different life stage. For example, I think of my mother and how she already had 3 children by the time she was in her mid-twenties. Then I remember the choices I’ve made and reasons why my life is different from her life. It usually causes me to ask myself, “Am I happy with my life right now?” I ask myself this question because I should only be looking at my life in order to help me process my feelings as opposed to comparing myself or focusing on the lives of others. We have a great post on keeping things in perspective.
Remember your accomplishments
Be proud of yourself. You are further along than you were a year ago. Or even a month ago. And you are continuing to find your way. We don’t typically give ourselves as much credit as we deserve. I’m that type of person. As I had previously mentioned in my post on improving your relationship with yourself, I struggle with identifying my own strengths. But it is important to recognize what you have achieved thus far. By doing so, it allows you to absorb and truly appreciate what you have worked for.
Get off social media
Social media tends to focus on people’s best version of themselves. The very nature of social media is to get likes and engagement. Most people do not want to present the negativity in their lives because it may not fit into the “theme” or narrative that they have created. In addition, the photos posted have been carefully edited so that the final image may end up very different from the original photo. I’m not saying to deactivate all your social media accounts (I know I wouldn’t be able to quit cold turkey), but I would encourage you to delete Facebook or Instagram from your phone for an afternoon or a day and see what a difference it can make. I find that when I’m taking a break from social media or having a low-key weekend, I am able to be more present in my life.
Use your support system
I have an amazing support system of family and friends. I share my goals and aspirations with them. I turn to them when I need to. They are great at keeping me grounded but also give me a much needed pep-talk when I’m lacking self-confidence. I think it is very humbling to have loved ones who are your biggest cheerleaders. In addition, your support network can remind you of your strengths and accomplishments.
Appreciate your journey
Your journey is your own. Do not compare your Chapter 1 to someone else’s Chapter 20. I’ve seen this quote many times and I’ve thought about it time and time again. It is a great reminder to focus on your own process. You should value the experience you have gained. You can utilize your past experiences to assist you in creating more goals. It takes time to grow. Be patient. Trust that you will get there.